Monday, October 04, 2010
Still Gay Suicides — Disgusting and Infuriating, More Than Just Sad. NBC Nitely News has reported on FOUR — count 'em, 4! — suicides of gay boys or young men across the country in "the last few weeks". The most notorious and shocking was here in New Jersey, when heterosexual monsters spied on a gay college student while he was having sex with another guy and streamed the action, without permission of course, on the Internet! The guy was so humiliated that he jumped off the George Washington Bridge (between North Jersey and NYC), a very high roadway, into the Hudson River. I'm saddened that he wasn't brought to his senses by the fresh air and gorgeous views from that walkway, on my favorite bridge in the world. I have been happy to stroll that walkway, but now it will hold sadness for me.
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Why is suicide of taunted gay men and boys still happening, 41 years after Stonewall? What the hell is The Movement doing that it has not focused on preventing suicide? "Where there is life, there is hope." Conversely, alas, where there is no hope, there is, all too often, no life. What good is anything else The Movement does if the people it is supposed to help kill themselves?
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Would a heterosexual student shown, without permission, having heterosexual sex on the Internet be so humiliated that he would commit suicide? Possibly, but not likely. SO likely was it that a very young gay man shown having sex with another man WOULD commit suicide, that the acts of those two despicable students must be treated as premeditated murder, and a hate crime.
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I don't actually approve of hate crimes in general, since on their face they deny "equal treatment under law" to people not covered by the statute. But this is slitely different, because the identical crime of monstrous invasion of privacy committed against a straight man and a gay man would almost certainly have different outcomes because of societal bias. Thus the crimes are actually different, and the predictable, far worse outcome of the same attack on the privacy of a gay man warrants a prosecution and punishment for a far more serious crime than mere invasion of privacy, or harassment, or any other trivial charge initially considered by the Middlesex County prosecutor's office.
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Some heterosexual male college students would actually LIKE knowing that they were shown having sex with a woman on the Internet. They would brag about it, and want to have a copy of the tape to show others. I am reminded of a story about President Sukarno of Indonesia. Political opponents tricked him into a "compromising position" with two (female) prostitutes and filmed the encounter. They then threatened to release the film to media (there was no Internet in those days). He was then a fairly old man, so he laffed and said, 'Go right ahead! It will boost my image — TWO women! In fact, I want a copy myself.' Will very young gay men and boys ever reach that condition of pride and self-assurance?
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I have had email exchanges in the past with longtime gay activists who have been hugely self-satisfied with how much progress we have supposedly made. Then four gay boys and men commit suicide within one month because of oppressive antigay harassment and humiliation, which puts the lie to how far we've come. What we have done is not enuf, and not the right things. People win respect; they can't demand it. And the first step in gaining respect is to respect yourself.
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The very largest part of the efforts of any gay organization must be to help gay boys and men become comfortable with homosexual SEX, the thing that sets them apart from straight people of both genders and from lesbians. Organizations that don't let gay kids feel comfortable about talking about SEX, with other gay male kids and young men but WITHOUT any woman around, are OPPRESSIVE, and completely fail the people they pretend to want to help.
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Homosexual sex is WONDERFUL — if you do it right; but a lot of young guys don't really know how to do it right, and have no one to ask. There are actually ostensible "gay" organizations that have WOMEN as the only people gay boys can ask about gay sex — which they won't do. And those women cannot possibly know what they're talking about if they dare to try to intrude into sex between males. Gay boys need to talk about gay sex with other gay boys and men. That should be obvious, but nothing is obvious to the lunatic morons who run all organizations nowadays.
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Sane people have been driven out of gay organizations by the endless stream of new, confused, self-despising losers who join the organizations and impose unliberated stances upon everyone. So the well-adjusted leave, the lunatics take over the asylum, and the organizations become toxic manufacturers of misinformation and misery that cannot possibly help anyone find happiness, because the people who staff them are miserably unhappy, maladjusted losers themselves.
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The very first responsibility of any gay organization is to make young gay boys and men happy in themselves and in their sexual interactions with other gay guys. They must work on helping gay people realize that being gay is the most wonderful thing in the world: you get to BE a man and HAVE a man. What could be better?
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But the typical "gay", or, more commonly, "lesbigay" organization is dominated by people who are completely confused about everything, including things you'd think nobody COULD be confused about, like gender. There are actually idiot losers telling the young people who contact lesbigay organizations that gender is a choice, a mental attitude, not a hard-and-fast biological condition that derives from DNA, not daydreaming. All organizations that deal with young gay males should be PURGED of the loons, to teach people to accept the FACT of biological gender and come to peace with reality, not play stupid games that produce, in extreme cases, surgical and chemical mutilation, to castrate men, slash a slit in their crotch, and tell the world that they are women (because, of course, all a woman is, is a slit in the crotch!) — all because society can't accept that myriad real men really want real men, and that is their actual NATURE, not a delusion. To the appalling contrary, many lesbigay organizations actually promote gender confusion as tho it were a good thing, and tell confused young men that they can escape societal disapproval by mutilating themselves and pretending to be a woman, tricking heterosexual men into homosexual relationships they would be horrified to discover they'd been having.
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In short, far from being the gay male's best friend, the lesbigay movement is his worst enemy.
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There are some things young males can read that can help them come to terms with homosexual reality, and take pride in their actual nature, but they are rare and hard for most people to find. The best source I know is the publications of the organization I founded at City College/CUNY in April 1969, Homosexuals Intransigent!. "Intransigent" with an exclamation point: uncompromising! No indulgence of gender confusion. No organizing heterosexually, men-and-women-together-now! No pretense that somehow gay men and lesbian women are the same, or have some special relationship in the nature of things. No toleration of "bisexual" confusion and cowardice.
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The bulk of the publications of Homosexuals Intransigent! are now available online at http://www.mrgaypride.org and/or http://mrgaypride.tripod.com. If every young gay male who doubts his masculinity or decency; if every young gay male who is confused about gender and the difference between sexual liberation and sexual perversion (sado-masochism most dangerously); if every young gay male who wants to be homosexual but fears that to be so would condemn him to perpetual unhappiness, from this day forth to the end of his life, would read EVERY WORD on the MrGayPride website, they would all gain immeasurably in self-acceptance and pride, and march into the future with confidence that homosexuality offers them not just sexual excitement and fulfillment — tho it assuredly does — but also a life of dignity, with a chance at a permanent love relationship with a wonderful man.
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They would learn that what matters most is personal happiness as a homosexual, thru self-acceptance and self-pride; and once they have that, they can approach all the world as equals, extending respect and getting respect in return. Once they themselves have benefited from those writings, maybe they can share the insights they gave rise to, with other gay men, especially confused young men, so we can end suicide as an all-too-common end of gay male lives.
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I urge gay men who have found that self-acceptance has to date eluded them, to read everything in the Mr. Gay Pride website: http://www.mrgaypride.org and/or http://mrgaypride.tripod.com. If, after reading everything, you have questions you did not see addressed, feel free to write to me at MrGayPride#aol.com (where the # stands in for the @ sign).
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Why is suicide of taunted gay men and boys still happening, 41 years after Stonewall? What the hell is The Movement doing that it has not focused on preventing suicide? "Where there is life, there is hope." Conversely, alas, where there is no hope, there is, all too often, no life. What good is anything else The Movement does if the people it is supposed to help kill themselves?
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Would a heterosexual student shown, without permission, having heterosexual sex on the Internet be so humiliated that he would commit suicide? Possibly, but not likely. SO likely was it that a very young gay man shown having sex with another man WOULD commit suicide, that the acts of those two despicable students must be treated as premeditated murder, and a hate crime.
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I don't actually approve of hate crimes in general, since on their face they deny "equal treatment under law" to people not covered by the statute. But this is slitely different, because the identical crime of monstrous invasion of privacy committed against a straight man and a gay man would almost certainly have different outcomes because of societal bias. Thus the crimes are actually different, and the predictable, far worse outcome of the same attack on the privacy of a gay man warrants a prosecution and punishment for a far more serious crime than mere invasion of privacy, or harassment, or any other trivial charge initially considered by the Middlesex County prosecutor's office.
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Some heterosexual male college students would actually LIKE knowing that they were shown having sex with a woman on the Internet. They would brag about it, and want to have a copy of the tape to show others. I am reminded of a story about President Sukarno of Indonesia. Political opponents tricked him into a "compromising position" with two (female) prostitutes and filmed the encounter. They then threatened to release the film to media (there was no Internet in those days). He was then a fairly old man, so he laffed and said, 'Go right ahead! It will boost my image — TWO women! In fact, I want a copy myself.' Will very young gay men and boys ever reach that condition of pride and self-assurance?
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I have had email exchanges in the past with longtime gay activists who have been hugely self-satisfied with how much progress we have supposedly made. Then four gay boys and men commit suicide within one month because of oppressive antigay harassment and humiliation, which puts the lie to how far we've come. What we have done is not enuf, and not the right things. People win respect; they can't demand it. And the first step in gaining respect is to respect yourself.
+
The very largest part of the efforts of any gay organization must be to help gay boys and men become comfortable with homosexual SEX, the thing that sets them apart from straight people of both genders and from lesbians. Organizations that don't let gay kids feel comfortable about talking about SEX, with other gay male kids and young men but WITHOUT any woman around, are OPPRESSIVE, and completely fail the people they pretend to want to help.
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Homosexual sex is WONDERFUL — if you do it right; but a lot of young guys don't really know how to do it right, and have no one to ask. There are actually ostensible "gay" organizations that have WOMEN as the only people gay boys can ask about gay sex — which they won't do. And those women cannot possibly know what they're talking about if they dare to try to intrude into sex between males. Gay boys need to talk about gay sex with other gay boys and men. That should be obvious, but nothing is obvious to the lunatic morons who run all organizations nowadays.
+
Sane people have been driven out of gay organizations by the endless stream of new, confused, self-despising losers who join the organizations and impose unliberated stances upon everyone. So the well-adjusted leave, the lunatics take over the asylum, and the organizations become toxic manufacturers of misinformation and misery that cannot possibly help anyone find happiness, because the people who staff them are miserably unhappy, maladjusted losers themselves.
+
The very first responsibility of any gay organization is to make young gay boys and men happy in themselves and in their sexual interactions with other gay guys. They must work on helping gay people realize that being gay is the most wonderful thing in the world: you get to BE a man and HAVE a man. What could be better?
+
But the typical "gay", or, more commonly, "lesbigay" organization is dominated by people who are completely confused about everything, including things you'd think nobody COULD be confused about, like gender. There are actually idiot losers telling the young people who contact lesbigay organizations that gender is a choice, a mental attitude, not a hard-and-fast biological condition that derives from DNA, not daydreaming. All organizations that deal with young gay males should be PURGED of the loons, to teach people to accept the FACT of biological gender and come to peace with reality, not play stupid games that produce, in extreme cases, surgical and chemical mutilation, to castrate men, slash a slit in their crotch, and tell the world that they are women (because, of course, all a woman is, is a slit in the crotch!) — all because society can't accept that myriad real men really want real men, and that is their actual NATURE, not a delusion. To the appalling contrary, many lesbigay organizations actually promote gender confusion as tho it were a good thing, and tell confused young men that they can escape societal disapproval by mutilating themselves and pretending to be a woman, tricking heterosexual men into homosexual relationships they would be horrified to discover they'd been having.
+
In short, far from being the gay male's best friend, the lesbigay movement is his worst enemy.
+
There are some things young males can read that can help them come to terms with homosexual reality, and take pride in their actual nature, but they are rare and hard for most people to find. The best source I know is the publications of the organization I founded at City College/CUNY in April 1969, Homosexuals Intransigent!. "Intransigent" with an exclamation point: uncompromising! No indulgence of gender confusion. No organizing heterosexually, men-and-women-together-now! No pretense that somehow gay men and lesbian women are the same, or have some special relationship in the nature of things. No toleration of "bisexual" confusion and cowardice.
+
The bulk of the publications of Homosexuals Intransigent! are now available online at http://www.mrgaypride.org and/or http://mrgaypride.tripod.com. If every young gay male who doubts his masculinity or decency; if every young gay male who is confused about gender and the difference between sexual liberation and sexual perversion (sado-masochism most dangerously); if every young gay male who wants to be homosexual but fears that to be so would condemn him to perpetual unhappiness, from this day forth to the end of his life, would read EVERY WORD on the MrGayPride website, they would all gain immeasurably in self-acceptance and pride, and march into the future with confidence that homosexuality offers them not just sexual excitement and fulfillment — tho it assuredly does — but also a life of dignity, with a chance at a permanent love relationship with a wonderful man.
+
They would learn that what matters most is personal happiness as a homosexual, thru self-acceptance and self-pride; and once they have that, they can approach all the world as equals, extending respect and getting respect in return. Once they themselves have benefited from those writings, maybe they can share the insights they gave rise to, with other gay men, especially confused young men, so we can end suicide as an all-too-common end of gay male lives.
+
I urge gay men who have found that self-acceptance has to date eluded them, to read everything in the Mr. Gay Pride website: http://www.mrgaypride.org and/or http://mrgaypride.tripod.com. If, after reading everything, you have questions you did not see addressed, feel free to write to me at MrGayPride#aol.com (where the # stands in for the @ sign).
