Saturday, March 03, 2007
Not This Film. I received today an email request that I cooperate in a student film:
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And gay men who know what they are and what they want are also supposed to identify with "bisexuals" who pretend to be unable to decide, because "it's all good". To the extent such people exist, which is highly questionable, they are infantile users of people who can never love anyone because there's always someone else out there that offers some physical something the one they are with at the moment cannot supply. But the reality is that "bisexuals" are just homosexuals without guts.
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Gay men are also supposed to identify with lesbians (if there is such a thing, and I'm not persuaded that lesbianism is much more than gender confusion in women). What exactly do gay men have in common with lesbians? They are not men. They (supposedly) don't want men. They start as the opposite sex and look in the opposite direction. How are gay men and lesbians alike? It's insane.
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Yet the wholly artificial "GLBT community" imposes upon people who have nothing in common not only the obligation to socialize and mix, when they never have any reason to be together but very good reason to stay apart, in order not to be confused about what each is (well, the B and T members of that "community" are confused in general, and don't want to become unconfused because that would require them to 'fess up to their actual nature, which they will go to great lengths to avoid). There are actually bars and dances in which people who have nothing in common and want entirely different things from life are supposed to spend all their time together! It's like the Black Panthers and KKK holding joint dinner dances because "they're all racists" so should love each other's company.
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The special group gay men need to identify with and spend their spare time with is gay men. Period.
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There's a very simple test for whether someone is gay. If any two gay people have sex together, that sex is homosexual. If someone claiming to be "gay" having sex with any other gay person would be having heterosexual sex, they are not gay. Thus, there is no such thing as a "gay" woman, because a "gay" woman having sex with a gay man would not be having "gay sex", but heterosex. It's really not complicated in the slitest.
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Gay men do not need lesbians to live a full, rich life. They do not need lesbians to weaken bonds in organizations and incite dissensions, as an organization attempts to reconcile irreconcilable interests. (For instance, lesbians, as feminists, tend to condemn pornography as "exploitation of women". Gay men, as men, like porn, and our porn has no women in it whatsoever, so "exploitation of women" has nothing to do with it. And gay men's organizations thus have no reason to condemn pornography unless it involves violence or abuse of the people in it.)
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Lesbian feminists have repeatedly pushed into gay organizations outside issues that destroy the organization, and gay men are supposed to accept this "gay man's burden", to accept lesbian guiltmongering about "male privilege" even among men who are profoundly oppressed! The "GLBT" movement has been a monstrous failure in advancing the things that are really important in gay men's lives: self-respect and respect for each other; stable, loving relationships. Of what value is gay marriage if you can't find anyone to marry, because the gay world has been crushed nearly out of existence by the "GLBT" world, a world of madness in which everyone is confused about everything?
Tho I don't want to seem ungracious, this project ticked me off, so I replied thus:... I'm a film student at the State University of New York at Binghamton. I am very pleased with your work and am hoping that you may be interested in mine.
This semester I'm starting a documentary project on GAY & AA in America. I am trying to explore & expose social issues tied into unfair prejudices toward GLBT individuals that may influence drug/alcohol usage. The documentary will consist of many participants in GAY AA meetings, as well as interviewing people who have interesting stories they may want to share about coming out, personal & social experiences, and the community's or society's role in such topics. I will be taking recordings & snap shots of gay clubs/bars in NY and the gay pride parade. And I will also be recording phone interviews from gay advocates around the world--hopefully some big names!!!
I was wondering if it might be possible to record a few phone interviews with you, or some of the advocates affiliated with you. Due to anonminity issues of sexual preference and/or alcohol/drug usage, interviews can be just vocal or written, if needed. I have consent forms for all those who are interested in participating!
So please contact me when you get a chance.
Thank you so much for your time, [name]
I HAVE no contact with AA, and don't approve of either that program or the concept that people who have a weakness or vice can never act in moderation. That is contrary to good sense and the best interest of individuals and society. AA also tells people to put their trust in a 'higher power', but there is no 'higher power' to call upon except society, friends or family, and whatever it is AA calls people who rush to the 'rescue' of people tempted to drink.There is no special relationship between gay men and lesbians, gay men and "bisexuals", gay men and nonexistent "transsexuals". "The GLBT community" is a lie and an insult to well-adjusted gay men. It has no more validity than the idea of a "nonwhite community", as tho all nonwhites in this country are somehow the same because they are not white, rather than that they are what they are in themselves. The fact that blacks and Japanese are not white is not the most important thing in their world, and the idea that they should somehow regard their lack of whiteness as impelling them to identify as each other would be seen plainly by everyone as insane. Yet gay men who know what they are and love what they are, are supposed to identify with insane men who are so ashamed of what they are and so incapable of accepting their nature and fiting for their own place in the sun that they would rather have their bodies ripped to shreds with scalpels and then pumped full of chemicals that can cause lethal cancer than accept the fact that they are men who want men, need men, have got to have men, and they will live their life as they choose, as homosexual men.
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I highly disapprove of both the artificial construct "GLBT" and the assertion that well-adjusted homosexual men are for all practical purposes identical with maladjusted losers who can't choose a gender, either as objects of affection/desire or as their own identity. There is no such thing as a "transsexual"; "bisexuals" are just weak, bad people who misuse everyone and do themselves no favor; and lesbians and gay men have nothing intrinsically in common. There is no such thing as a "gay woman" any more than there is such a thing as a "lesbian man".
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To the extent that anxiety engendered by social hostilities influences some weak personalities to abuse alcohol (or drugs), that is a phenomenon that should be explored without any artificial link between people who have nothing in common except outside hostility. Your film is fundamentally misconceived.
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If you want to show the role of social disapproval in the abuse of alcohol, show it across all outre' groups, be they minorities (blacks, gay men, Hispanics, Amerindians, Orientals, lesbians, South Asians, Arabs, Jews, and on and on), or various types of nonconformists (bikers, people with multiple tattoos and piercings, artists, musicians, nerds, criminals, geeks, etc.), people whom the popular culture does not value or actively disapproves of. That might raise interesting issues, such as whether all outre' groups have similar rates of alcoholism (tho even establishing such a rate for gay men or lesbians, much less transvestites and "bisexuals", is impossible, since most members of those communities are, to this day, hidden, so no reliable statistics exist, only anecdotal evidence) or whether some groups seem inoculated against chemical dependency, perhaps by strong family relationships or by cultural values or peer pressure and similar controls within their own group.
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You don't say whether you are male, female; lesbian, gay, or straight; and my inclination is to tell outsiders to mind their own business and look into their own lives, not the lives of strangers. Gay men are not zoo animals.
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As you should by now [have] concluded, there is no way in hell I will cooperate in any such insulting and misconceived project. I am very tired of people telling gay men that what they are isn't good enuf, and they must identify with what they are not and let the preconceptions and values of outsiders control them and mold their identity. I will not personally consent to an interview; I will not solicit friends to do so; I will not put a notice on the Mr. Gay Pride website about your project; I will not in any way cooperate with any project that proceeds from what my friend John Lauritsen might call the "synthetic insanity" of a "GLBT community". No such community exists, any more than there is a single "Asian" community, and no sane person believes for a moment that such a community exists. Cheers.
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And gay men who know what they are and what they want are also supposed to identify with "bisexuals" who pretend to be unable to decide, because "it's all good". To the extent such people exist, which is highly questionable, they are infantile users of people who can never love anyone because there's always someone else out there that offers some physical something the one they are with at the moment cannot supply. But the reality is that "bisexuals" are just homosexuals without guts.
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Gay men are also supposed to identify with lesbians (if there is such a thing, and I'm not persuaded that lesbianism is much more than gender confusion in women). What exactly do gay men have in common with lesbians? They are not men. They (supposedly) don't want men. They start as the opposite sex and look in the opposite direction. How are gay men and lesbians alike? It's insane.
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Yet the wholly artificial "GLBT community" imposes upon people who have nothing in common not only the obligation to socialize and mix, when they never have any reason to be together but very good reason to stay apart, in order not to be confused about what each is (well, the B and T members of that "community" are confused in general, and don't want to become unconfused because that would require them to 'fess up to their actual nature, which they will go to great lengths to avoid). There are actually bars and dances in which people who have nothing in common and want entirely different things from life are supposed to spend all their time together! It's like the Black Panthers and KKK holding joint dinner dances because "they're all racists" so should love each other's company.
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The special group gay men need to identify with and spend their spare time with is gay men. Period.
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There's a very simple test for whether someone is gay. If any two gay people have sex together, that sex is homosexual. If someone claiming to be "gay" having sex with any other gay person would be having heterosexual sex, they are not gay. Thus, there is no such thing as a "gay" woman, because a "gay" woman having sex with a gay man would not be having "gay sex", but heterosex. It's really not complicated in the slitest.
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Gay men do not need lesbians to live a full, rich life. They do not need lesbians to weaken bonds in organizations and incite dissensions, as an organization attempts to reconcile irreconcilable interests. (For instance, lesbians, as feminists, tend to condemn pornography as "exploitation of women". Gay men, as men, like porn, and our porn has no women in it whatsoever, so "exploitation of women" has nothing to do with it. And gay men's organizations thus have no reason to condemn pornography unless it involves violence or abuse of the people in it.)
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Lesbian feminists have repeatedly pushed into gay organizations outside issues that destroy the organization, and gay men are supposed to accept this "gay man's burden", to accept lesbian guiltmongering about "male privilege" even among men who are profoundly oppressed! The "GLBT" movement has been a monstrous failure in advancing the things that are really important in gay men's lives: self-respect and respect for each other; stable, loving relationships. Of what value is gay marriage if you can't find anyone to marry, because the gay world has been crushed nearly out of existence by the "GLBT" world, a world of madness in which everyone is confused about everything?
